Friends, forum owners, moderators and posters…
How can we as a team better flag and respond to posts that are not cool. Hurtful. Ist but not trying to be ist.
As an example, I recently complained about my male partner in a way that easily led into midandrist tropes. In this case, I was the journal owner and not emotionally in danger and felt confident speaking up. But if it had been me stating the tropes, on a forum where the loudest voices don’t seem to be het cis men, then maybe no one would have felt brave enough to call me on it. Or if I was angsting over commiting to someone who could turn out to be the very tropeiest of tropes… With maybe a not all men. Or, if I was worried that I’ll turn into a (soccer or wine mom only meaner versions of the tropes). Would the other married mom’s feel hurt and need a voice? But I didn’t vio.
Now imagine if a neurotyoical person was fearful of having a neurodiverse child. And catastrophizing about that.
It’s ableist shit. It hurts people. It’s not a vio. How would we shut it down? And whose job is it to help?