I’m at the wedding. It looks more cream or tan, not actually white. She is so gorgeous!!
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Whoa, things are not turning out like I expected!!
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Now that you’re done…do you think it’s possible the white traditional dress was a low-key troll? 
Because that would be awesome.
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Honestly as a person with Indian descent but culturally American I would 100% wear a white Indian style dress without a second thought! I think it’s ok to take from diff cultures and evolve 
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Hahaha… this marriage is DEAD.
But I think she just didn’t know the traditional customs. Plus I think they probably edited a bunch of good times together to make it look like things were going really well, and she must have realized for a long time that Shake wasn’t physically attracted to her. Pretty awesome mic drop and Shake was obviously soooooo relieved not to have to make a decision!
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Yeah if YOU don’t believe it’ll bring you bad luck, and you’re blending cultures anyway, I feel like you can keep the parts of your culture you want?
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Haha I guess that does very culturally Korean to me. Her mom did it with her dad too! But for sure that kind of humor doesn’t work for everyone and Shayne was very explicit about not liking it.
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Yeah a lot of my family was like that too, lol, that’s probably why I don’t like it. Especially because IME usually the people who dish it the most can’t take it at all…so less aggressive people (me, lol) just end up having to absorb it. I think it also makes me think…there are a million ways to make a joke and make someone laugh, and it is a bit telling when the only humor someone has is mean? Like even within cultures where it’s normalized there are always people who don’t do it and still manage to be charming/funny/etc. I’m sure that’s why I’m so sensitive to it though, like it doesn’t actively upset me but I find it unattractive.
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I guess I have a lot of issues from being told things in childhood and also being married into a very conservative and traditional Indian family. His immediate family loves me, but I have to be so careful when it comes to everyone else.
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I’ve been brought up from a young age with my parents telling me that white is for funerals, so it just makes me so uncomfortable in situations when I know that culturally it’s a funeral color! Plus I’ve had so many years of Marmalade telling me what’s appropriate or not, because there are a lot of friends and family members who are not ok with me being from outside the community and want to have any excuse to criticize me and Marmalade. If it was just us, it would be ok, but it ends up being them telling his mom what a terrible mother she is for raising a son like him. I actually had to disable people posting on my Facebook page in case someone tagged me in a photo with meat in it, because I’m Facebook friends with some of his relatives and that would be a Big Deal.
There was major drama at our wedding: we were having the henna done and it was me and my mom and sister, my friend, and Marmalade’s cousin and maybe some aunties. My mom said “would you like a drink?” and she gestured offering the juice/tea and Marmalade’s cousin declined. A few days after the wedding, his aunt called and Marmalade talked to me and was very serious and asked if we had alcohol. My aunt said my mom had offered alcohol to my cousin. First of all, they are from a very religious community and alcohol in any situation is a huge no-no, and even worse if we were having it at our wedding. I was so confused because of course there was no alcohol, but apparently the word “drink” had connotations to his cousin and they were all very upset, and I had to talk to them and apologize and assure them that it was all a mistake!
So yeah, I’ve kinda had a lot of traumas about not being “culturally appropriate”.
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Whew, you are like a skilled diplomat!
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What??? 
I’m so not. It’s more like Marmalade training me on the ramifications if I’m not careful. His poor mom got blasted from all sides with people telling her what a terrible mother she was for raising a son like him. So I have to do what I can to not make it worse!
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Wow! So much navigation there. You are a great partner and DIL 
I think I probably just have a loose hold in traditions. Like black is for funerals here. It’s also for cool cyberpunks and sexy vampires.
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I could totally see a lot of people being uncomfortable with a bride wearing a black wedding dress, too! Especially if it were in a church!!
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Oh for sure. People would lose it in my family. It took them like 5 years to accept dh because he has tattoos, lol. In some church communities it’s even a big deal if the dress isn’t pure white, like, if it’s even slightly cream or ivory people will talk.
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This is so fake (guessing a lot of the voiceovers about being undecided happened way earlier). How can you leave it up to the last minute to decide if you’re saying yes or no??
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Sal and Mallory
DID NOT SEE THAT COMING 
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Sal and Mallory
They agreed to go on a date. So maybe they’re the sane couple who wants to take more time before they actually get married!!
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Hm, do you think they really will though? I felt like he was just appeasing her, because at first she was like, “should we date instead?” and his answer was something like, “I think I just need time,” and then she pressed him again and it was all wishy washy with a “maybe we could go on a date” at the end. I feel like he’s outta there, haha.
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I’m not actually giving this my full attention so I didn’t notice the nuances
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Natalie and Shayne
Out of order, but if they hadn’t had that big fight they’d probably be married?!?!
Jarrette and Iyanna
They are cute together and seem sincere, but he seems like such a party guy! Will be actually be a good husband to her??
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