Say it with me pleaseā¦
I canāt control everything.
I am not responsible for other peopleās words or actions (even if I facilitated a connection).
Yep, itās very true 
Oh hey, itās me. Itās a lot like method acting. I think Iām still discovering who I really am underneath all the masks.
This is one of the ones that strike me as not specific to neuro divergence. All people adapt to their surroundings and mask to an extent.
Depending on the environments available to a person, they may never have a chance to explore their authentic self (likes, dislikes, dreams, goals, etc) even if they are neurotypical. But just traumatized.
ouch. Rude
Posted this somewhere else but was also trying to put it here.
Wow. This is a powerful reframe!
You are the universe experiencing itself through you, for the express purpose that your outlook is a unique and valuable perspective that cannot be gained through anyone else. Live your purpose by being as much you as you can be!
I have definitely made the mistake of being overly optimistic about people. But I still try to default to intentionally overtrusting and be proven wrong rather than default to cynical and take a long time to gain trust.
I think Iāve decided I can like people even if they arenāt perfectly good humans. Thatās sort of my going in position rather than optimism that the people I meet are some definition of good. Although I do often wonder what happened to such truly awful folks to make them soā¦ awful. I have some empathy for such people, as well.
I think all humans have blind spots, even me. Definitely me. I think thereās a lot of confirmation bias where the things that Iām most focused on are the things that I notice other people doing wrong. And I might not notice all the things they are doing right with that lense. Or if I am focused on X quality as being the marker of a good person, I might not notice the other crappy things the person does that are not my area of focus.
So I continually remind myself that people arenāt perfect and donāt need to be deserving of my care. I can care about myself and care about others and offer that what I have to give in the way of friendship. This in no way means I endorse (fill in the blank). Some people say it does, but how much power do they think one person holds? I can do so even if myself and others have qualities of humans that are (fill in the blankā¦ super not great things or tiny not great things).
I also remind myself that itās not my job to change other people. Sure, I will offer a different perspective if I think it might help someone see something they are missing, but itās also not my job to fix broken people, even people whose brokenness results in undesirable blind spots. Otherwise I find myself on a tiny island of self-righteousness.
I like that 
Thanks.
So wholesome 
