For me, listening to the stories of transgender people was really impactful. The children’s novel George is a quick read and is an OwnVoices work. (The author regrets using the “deadname” for the title, but for me this did not lessen its utility.)
Another thing that struck me recently was an episode of The Double Shift called Don’t Call Me Mom, Call Me Ted. The person being interviewed had lived as a wife and mother of five before his transition. It was suuuper interesting to hear him talk about the assumptions he made when he was living as a woman and how hard it was to come to the conclusion that he was transgender.
I know there are tons of great stories. Those are just two that affected me personally.
I am a little older than you, like you I grew up when gay marriage was a radical concept, and I will admit that it’s taken me time to get where I am now. It didn’t come naturally to me. I have the advantage of working for an employer where acceptance is assumed and actively promoted through trainings and policies.
But my seven-year-old is THERE (we have read out loud together George and also Sex Is a Funny Word, which is very trans-friendly.) He had a question the other day about how people pee. Something to do with the bladder. I used the word “boys” in my answer, and he immediately corrected me. “You mean people with penises. A girl could have a penis. You don’t know.” I love that kid.