I was a social worker and now teach a class on disabilities after many years of working in the field. As a client you have a right to have your needs met. When people are in therapy they need it. I spent 18 months in therapy when I was gathering the strength to leave a long verbally abusive marriage. It was devastating if I had to miss a appointment. You are not being ableist.
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I’m going to go and guess that no, you aren’t. You’re both doing the best you can - she’s saying that right now, she’s not in a position to offer completely reliable timing for therapy. You are in need of therapy. The right thing for both is for her to take care of her family and for you to have a “backup therapist” to see when she isn’t available and you are in need. Ableist would I think be completely and utterly firing her because she has different working requirements than other therapists, and also some particular thought patterns about how she isn’t a good therapist because she needs to reschedule often. I really can’t see anything wrong with having a second therapist on call if possible, I have used an alternate therapist when needed. In another industry, it would be completely reasonable to have a backup even for “completely healthy” people.**
**caveat that I live in Not America where we believe in having slightly more employees than are required so that we aren’t short of people when others need to take sick days.
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All good points, thank you. The other America issue regarding this is, I’m not certain how my insurance would like me having a backup therapist. I am really, really lucky - I’ve been seeing her for, what, 3 or 4 years now, and my insurance has NEVER contacted her with “so, when’s Tris going to be better, when can she discontinue treatment, you need to prove that she really needs these sessions or else we’re going to stop covering this.” That’s common; it happened to both me and Boyfriend with different insurances. I don’t even want to breathe funny in the direction of my insurance, for fear of triggering a review.
So I guess really my tiny complaint is US healthcare or lack thereof, which is not a tiny complaint!
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Ugh that is a huge complaint.
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Here are a few pics of the catastrophic floods about 30 minutes from me. As far as I know it was not considered a flood plain so pretty much nobody had the right kind of insurance to have any coverage at all.
Roads and bridges are simply gone.
These people USED to live on a lake
The little gray house floated right down the Main Street of the town.
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Oh my god
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AND! The hardware store was smart enough to move expensive machines or tools to the top shelf hoping to be able to save it. People then came in and stole it after the water receded.
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That’s terrifying.
I am out of Tim Tams.
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I also have no Tim Tams.
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I looked up Tim Tams and now I am also sad that I do not have any.
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My baby is being a sleep anarchist.
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Same and same.
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I have an acquaintance who wants to buy something off of me and she keeps saying “shit, I forgot, I’ll paypal you right now” and then no paypal arrives.
I don’t really care, it’s for like $10, and it’s something I can’t put on Etsy or Amazon (copyright) but it’s just mildly annoying. Pay or don’t pay, whatever, just stop saying you are going to do something and not doing it!
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We were waiting on a grocery order. Got through the whole shopping process. No more updates. I just checked in with the guy, it was his first Instacart order he took, and his barcode thing isn’t working. The support number isn’t helping him much, so as of right now my order has been returned and there’s just… No plan at all. So no groceries for me.
Eta and I was gonna have sour cream for the first time in over three months. And half-and-half for my coffee. I get to have dairy again, and now I don’t get my dairy. And now these fajitas for lunch don’t get any sour cream with them. 
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Picked up all the wood to redo my cabinet doors, got the first set of major cuts made, and found out that one of the 4x8s had basically entirely delaminated. Now, instead of having about a third of my doors in the thickness that, I want I have twice that in half thickness. So I get to take it back to the hardware store (or at least enough pieces to show them what happened), get a new sheet, and start chopping all over again. Theoretically I could use a lot of wood glue and clamps and rebuild the existing sheets, but there’s a reason these are typically done in an industrial processing facility.
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If my husband says something to me, then doesn’t listen for my response, asks me to repeat and then doesn’t listen for my response AGAIN I’m gonna lose my mind. Is focusing for 3 seconds too much to ask?
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The skin around my right nostril is dry.
Why tho.
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being in the house so much means I’m noticing all the cracks in the ceilings and walls as the light catches them throughout the day
this is going to turn into an expensive renovation
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Consider whether there may be some hearing loss involved. My husband and I are dealing with some of that, and you’ve just described what it feels like.
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