I think it’s both. She had a list of things she wanted to do together and most of them I can’t. She is doing a lot of labour that normally I would jump in and help with. We’re ok but it’s not really what either of us pictured and it’s hard.
12 Likes
It sounds hard. The emotional hard is almost worse than the physical hard sometimes.
3 Likes
She is gracious and there is a lot of love between us. We are both struggling but also glad to be together.
9 Likes
I’m so glad you’re there.
Following your vacation story (not this one variable of it, of course) has been really nice and is at the top of my list of “things that make me feel less alone during my holidays” this year. Which is completely random, but I love that, that often it’s the smallest thing that resonates in a good way for no apparent reason.
I kind of mean “discordant” rather than “alone” and neither is a bad thing - just a thing. That’s my tiny complaint, that I can’t find the right word that doesn’t have a connotation of being sad.
4 Likes
I have another Tiny Complaint not unrelated to Oro’s.
My work schedule was NUTS in December! I have been on call every day except for this weekend and the days off I took to see my parents in Seattle. I missed meeting Oro, and missed a friend’s holiday party, and missed a lot of cooking and cleaning. But my tree is up! I might decorate it with hearts in February.
7 Likes
I’m at a ceilidh where the only person I know is my sister and she won’t dance with me because it wouldn’t be cool in front of her friends.
7 Likes
I found someone to dance with! My new complaint is that I’m now sweating so much I can actually see steam rising from my legs which is a new experience
10 Likes
Ewok is already completely bored by a few of his Christmas presents, and the worst part is that one of them was my suggestion. Sigh. I wish people could just not buy him things.
5 Likes
My ribs twinged unpleasantly while I was trying to extract a dead pear tree from its pot (ok, the pear I wanted is dead and the rootstock is still alive). Ow.
5 Likes
Watching my 6 week old on her sixth weekly blood draw really sucks 
kudos to my husband for holding her.
10 Likes
YOU HAVE A 6 WEEK OLD??? HOW DID THIS HAPPEN???
(It just feels like she was born like last week)
6 Likes
I am supposed to get together with friends in about 3 hours but it is dark outside so I want to go to bed.
2 Likes
Well, she just insists on growing 
8 Likes
Uggggh, I need to go on a post-holiday cleanse or something. Working from home in a houseful of Christmas cookies, eggnog, and cheese is no good for my digestive tract.
1 Like
Just tried to book a hotel room for next weekend and discovered my nearly 200k in Hilton points expired back in August 
9 Likes
I can’t find my goddamn screwdriver
3 Likes
Some people in my Buy Nothing are really fucking greedy. Is it uncharitable to say to myself, “you don’t get to claim all the things, that’s really fucking greedy”? Because I think it is. Greedy, that is.
Like, I’ve gotten a couple pretty nice things recently. But I also have given away quite a lot of things recently. I just want a chance to express interest. But instead, the past two days have been full of people wanting/claiming EVERYTHING in multiple item posts. Like literally 10 different unrelated things. And it is primarily the same people. Some of these people I don’t see offering up a huge amount. Are they just reselling the stuff? That’s their prerogative, it is explicitly stated that once someone gets gifted something they are free to do whatever they want with it (as is their right). But it feels really un-neighborly, pushy, greedy, and just wrong.
I two people ghost me as well recently, including one of the aforementioned people. I always ask them to message ME, because I can’t trust people to figure out who to find messages in their Messenger app from non-FB-friends. Seriously, apparently this is a real problem. It comes up a lot. “I don’t see your message!” “Where do I look?” Seriously people, it is not that hard. So to get around that (because I do know how to check my message requests) I just ask them to send me a message. This has always worked. The past two, just nothing. Fine. If you don’t want to make an effort it is going to the local thrift shop. Unless FB is being stupid, which wouldn’t come as a surprise, but either way, if you want a free thing from me you might make an effort. Like, maybe ask in the thread if I got your message? No? Then too bad. I am too irritated at you.
Maybe I am just in a bad mood?
7 Likes
People who pluralize “millennium” as “millennia’s.” “Millennia” is already plural. “Millenniums” is okay too. But you can’t just go adding an apostrophe and an s to make an already plural word more plural.
4 Likes
Why tf are people booking me new patients at random ass times on my last week before mat leave and not leaving appointment notes? I’ve sent several emails about coming up with a mat leave plan together and expressing my wishes.
There is no benefit to anyone to have a 35+6 week pregnant woman who is annoyed your appointment exists, doing your intake and assessment, creating a treatment plan that you can’t follow, and referring you out to someone who has to do their own intake and assessment and treatment plan. And both appointments cost a lot of money.
To be excruciatingly clear, I’m annoyed at my team, not at the patients. I’m trying to advocate for the patients
10 Likes