Giant googly eyes
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I need to share a video of me talking at a camera if I want to present at this conference, and I waited until it was dark and now my lighting is crappy. But they specifically said that video quality doesn’t matter, so I need to upload it anyway because I put it off until today and the cutoff is midnight tonight.
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Content warning: I’m going to - lightly, I think - criticize an old friend’s parenting. She’s punishing her 5-year-old because she gave one of her dolls (the 5-year-old’s doll, not the mom’s) a punk haircut.
Now… I did this as a child, many times. There was also hair dye via food coloring and/or Sharpies, eyeliner via Sharpies, and sometimes piercings via safety pins. My mom didn’t give a fuck because they were my dolls and if i wanted to destroy them (her word, I prefer “personalizing” them), that was my business as long as afterward I didn’t have hysterics and demand new ones because I’d ruined mine. Which I didn’t, because now they looked damn cool! And, her kid didn’t either.
It’s just… the literal only reason I can see punishing your kid for this is if your kid took some collectible action figure that’s worth money out of the package and gave said action figure a goth punk makeover. without your permission But, if something’s collectible and needs to stay pristine, then maybe don’t give it to your 5-year-old? I don’t think this was the case here, it was just a Barbie.
Am I totally off base. I know people have the right to parent the way they see fit and this is why I will not call her out on it - it’s none of my business. It just seems unnecessarily punitive and stifling.
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I think I must have accidentally taken my nighttime meds twice because I am super high. I have to cancel my morning plans, including therapy and picking up my friend at the airport. Do not like.
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I was in a waiting room with a bunch of pregnant women today and now I want to be a pregnant woman. 
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I hit a blood vessel while doing my Humira injection on Sunday and now there’s a huge 1.5" purple-black bruise gracing my stomach.
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I don’t know the whole situation…but when I was that age, the punishment was because scissors are a controlled item. I did not get in trouble for the markers as makeup and hair dye
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My sister got in trouble for giving Party Pink Barbie a haircut. My mom saw it as her messing up a perfectly good Barbie.
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That is ridiculous. As is if TrisPrior’s 5yo friend is in trouble for that reason
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This was a punishment “because she doesn’t take care of her things.” I don’t think scissors were the primary issue - though, she’s 5, so they probably should be? Unless they were safety scissors?
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I suggest migrating your friendship to the 5 year old, who seems fun and creative.
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The cheap peel- off face masque from shoppers that used to bring me much joy suddenly makes my skin burn. Fucksakes.
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When I became a parent I discovered that I kept making choices and enforcing behaviour that was contrary to my values, but in line with my parents’ values. Over and over and over I have caught echoes of my mum’s voice when scolding. I’ve had to stop and re evaluate a million times to avoid unthinkingly passing on my programming to my kids. This sounds like something I would do, then deeply regret when I realized.
I don’t know your friend or the situation, but shitty parenting is a big part of parenting. Hopefully she is actively trying to do better.
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Yep. It’s amazing to hear something come out your mouth that sounds just like your parent sounded. And then remember, sadly, how it felt to be on the receiving end of that. And then you have to do the hard work of reexamining all your beliefs on things and make efforts to reprogram yourself. That’s the hardest part, because parenting never comes along when you are are calm and unbusy and perfectly able to parent exactly perfectly. It’s always mid-crisis, in the middle of something, trying to get off to work or while trying to get dinner made not too late while also helping someone with their homework. That’s when the programming jumps out, and it’s work to not let it!
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So true. Luckily you get sixty or seventy opportunities to try again later that day or the next day.
Also @TrisPrior it is natural and human to sometimes shake your head at what people do, in parenting as in everything. I had a moment of really truly judging someone’s parenting yesterday (silently, internally).
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I used to find myself looking at clothes that weren’t my taste but that were my mom’s taste-- think pink and floral. And being interested in buying stuff just because it was a good deal.
I had to train myself out of both habits. The patterns that you’ve lived with stick with you.
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Sigh. Yes. I am currently fighting the Angry Yelling Monster and trying to work out if we can live together in harmony instead, but it usually want to play right when I need Calm.
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I ordered greyhound jammies from Australia, and they’ve been sitting in LA customs “awaiting clearance” since Friday.
#firstworldproblems
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Dumb headache!
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I feel like I have had a grain of rice or something in my nose all day.
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