Pink and short I borrowed from a friend, long I’ve never had a chance to wear (bought it right before covid). Short has fabric covering the armpits and is lighter in a way that seems like it would cover or evaporate sweat better. They’re both incredibly synthetic fabric so I think wearing them might be the only way to tell for sure.
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How often do you find yourself invited to weddings, and what is your relationship to the people getting married? I find myself somewhat puzzled by all these wedding questions. I’ve only been to three weddings as an adult (where I was responsible for a gift) and I don’t remember how much I spent or what I gave as gifts. They were all weddings for my closest friends from college.
ETA: Just remembered one more. D was in the wedding party. No idea what we gave them either 
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Well, this year there is a wedding boom because many people either rescheduled or put their plans off due to COVID. But I’m 32 so I’m seeing a second wave of city friends getting married (earlier wave of undergrad friends got married right out of college—lotta small town Iowa and Nebraska in there).
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I’m related to so many fucking people 
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As a 30 something adult, I rarely am invited to weddings anymore, but in my early 20s a bunch of my friends got married. I was in mostly very religious circles until my mid-20s and there’s just a lot of young marriages happening there. I was invited to a lot that I didn’t attend or I attended but did not give elaborate gifts.
These days I am friends with mostly live together forever and don’t get married types of people, or already married long ago type people. I have two friends getting married soon, one an old college friend with a super small wedding where they can’t afford to invite most people and one who I’ll probably be invited to, but it’ll be super casual so a small token gift will be appropriate. I’ve kind of orchestrated my life to get out of the friend circles where there are lots of big weddings/gift expectations…living in rural CO for a long time and being friends with people who work to buy expensive bikes and play outdoors in their free time means not a lot of weddings to worry about, haha.
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Yep this was me. Way more weddings right out of high school/college. Another wave in my late 20s. Now I’m early/mid 30s and there’s a big lull except siblings.
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Yeah dude I have so many cousins!!!
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Yep. Depending on who you count and how you count it, I have upwards of 50. And of course my family’s generation time on average is like 16 years 
so we’re already on another generation of (shotgun) weddings.
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I love weddings! I want to be invited to a wedding again! I feel like it’s been a while. OK, I went to one cousin’s in December 2019 and another cousin’s in January 2020. Younger cousins are my answer, I guess. I miss friend weddings but at my age, that rarely happens. Second weddings maybe. Why don’t I know more people getting remarried?? I want to go to a wedding and I am happy to spend a bunch of money on it and on gifts. Back when people were getting married more often in my circle, I couldn’t always afford to go or to give as much as I’d like. Now I can but I’m not being invited to weddings. It’s all screwed up!
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oh you too? My cousins historically have not had many weddings. I mean, the older ones did, but I was a wee child at that time (I am the youngest grandchild of 50+ cousins). The rest have just kind of…started having babies at 16-ish and a few have eventually married but most just “live in sin” as my parents say to me 
. It is always fascinating to hear about how many more cousins I have now each time I get a family “gossip” update, as most of my cousins now have 4+ kids themselves. Some of cousin’s kids are getting married now though, as a lot of them are actually my age, so maybe there will be a wedding season in my family at some point!
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From age 0 to 18 I went to 3 weddings, all happened in fields.
In grad school 3 of my lab mates got married and I went to traditional church weddings for the first time.
I skipped getting invited to any of my “early marriage” college friends weddings by not inviting anyone to my own wedding (we only had 18 people) and therefore not ending up on anyone’s “reciprocal invitation” list. Some of those I was sad to not be invited.
And now I got invited to 3 weddings in one summer! Two college friends and my husbands work friend (at that one currently, getting ready).
I was invited to cousin’s weddings but those are all in Ireland and there’s drama if you go to one and not all (plus they were all during my finals weeks). My parents went to a few but I did not.
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I have one first cousin.
I have more than 50 second cousins though.
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What did you decide? I’m on the edge of my seat here!
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I think we were invited to 6 weddings this year and are going to 5, invited and went to 2 post-vax weddings in 2021, and looking back at a spreadsheet, invited and went to 10+ weddings in 2019? One was a cousin of mine and one was my wife’s cousin, but otherwise everyone else getting married was a friend.
We’re both 34, and for whatever reason almost everyone we know who is married got married in their late 20s-early/mid 30s. I also married a Gemini who is off-the-charts extroverted and moved around a lot as a kid, so she has a lot of good friends
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My sister-in-law is getting married and I’m a bridesmaid 
Bridesmatron? I’m sure I’m 10 years older than her other bridesmaids, lol. The only other time I’ve been a bridesmaid was in 2007.
I had a lot of friends get married soon after college (8 or 10?), and I was lucky that most of them were in the town we went to college in, or in my hometown, so it wasn’t a giant hassle to find housing. I always bring a present, but I don’t tie it to the seat “price” because I’m a penny-pincher in many things.
We’re contributing a significant amount of money to this wedding + bachelor(ette) parties + wedding clothes, so they get a waffle maker. I love waffles, and I’m not buying them a >$100 present when they already live together and I have to buy a dress I can’t shorten and wear again later.
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I trusted everyone on the internet and went short and pink!
I think I would have been even sweatier until the long dress, so I’m glad I decided to go with the wisdom of the crowd.
And there were a lot of people wearing a white/cream base with flower patterns, so I didn’t feel like I was wearing too much white!
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I hope you had fun! You looked great in that dress!
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Thank you! It was a lot of fun. They had a live band who were incredible and we danced a lot!
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Does anyone have grant templates they like? Context of a small farm applying for an agricultural grant.
If I join in a class action lawsuit against a former employer due to a cyber security breach (involving some impressive negligence and hiding the breach on their part), can it come back on me in future employment opportunities?
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