“In case you need ideas, here are something’s kiddo is interested in right now”
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I guess it’s hard to tell taking pictures of my own arm—maybe I should have taken multiple pictures to show different angles! But in person I can see that it’s totally filled in where the band-aid was. The clear spot in the middle is just from the pad.
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Exactly. You can even get more specific, if you know the $ amount they are looking to spend. “Child is very into Star Wars Lego, and I have seen them eyeing the Death Star in stores.”
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Some call me passive agressive, some say I know the art of subtlety.
Chat chat chat with grandparents. "We’re trying to decide what to get for meerkitten. He needs size 5 oh pants and normally I get him them from the second hand place but we could get new blue ones and he’d be excited because he wants blue everything, or we could get Peppa pig because he loves her. And if I do a toy he wants a scooter, but also the germanakana system of writing was recommended by his OT and it’s $200. Plus we always run out of bubble solution and sidewalk chalk. I’m leaning towards us getting the learning system and the blue PJs and some bubbles and just hoping that he gets enough fun stuff like Peppa that this birthday isn’t a disappointment. My online formed took a kid to build a bear and I know he’d love it, but maybe next year.
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Whereas I say you’re a genius.
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I also lean heavily on the “Y persons daughter got X for her birthday and really loves it, seems like a great toy for their age”
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This is so hard! My family are an ask family so I can give them a list. this time around I even sent poshmark links so we are getting second hand stuff. My ILs are a guess family but long before I joined it, my spouse made it clear he donates things he doesn’t want so they seem fine with that. The guessing gives them so much joy and they get some good stuff maybe 1/3 of the time (almost always used which makes it a lot easier to swallow)
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Oh. My. God. 
I am blown away by the skill level here…
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When did “bitch” become culturally mainstream/“okay”? I’m hearing it a TON lately, seeing it on memes, etc. It’s quite jarring to me- it’s really never been a comfortable term for me- so this sudden surge of it is weird to me. Is it recent? Did I miss some sort of culture icon that triggered this? It feels like it came out of nowhere but I may have missed a slow build.
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I’d guess drag race or queer eye, but I thought it was mainstream from 2006ish?
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I’ve heard it in like “that B” contexts, but it seems it’s being used as a- if not positive, at least neutral term now?
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I’ve been using it as a positive/neutral for about 12 years now… basically since I started swearing in high school? I almost never call anyone a b* to their faces, that still seems kind of aggressive to me.
More recent pop culture moment would be Lizzo’s “turns out I’m 100% that bitch.” “That bitch” had more loving/celebrity/fabulous connotations to me than just “a bitch.”
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I’ve noticed myself doing this too. Idk when it shifted!
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Thinking about later lyrics in the song: “bad bitch” as a positive has been around since at least Rihanna.
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OK, so it took me a few minutes on my walk now to formulate my thoughts around what has shifted. Prior to this, it was all referencing the same thing. That bitch started as a negative, but then it was re-claimed as a positive, but it still had to do with the original term. Now I’m seeing it basically as a substitute for the word woman or female. Like, “If you need something, I’m your bitch” and so on. If that makes sense.
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Nah, 2007 yelling across a sweaty drag bar “love you bitch” “these are my bitches” “time to go bitch”
So I was in queer circles, but I didn’t know it wasn’t in straighty mainstream culture
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Yep, I think that’s what happened, but happened sooner where I was, than where you are.
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That’s absolutely an element too- I’m seeing straight white women and even men using it as though there’s no negative context. As though a man sweepingly referring to women, collectively, as “bitches” is just… fine now? It feels like quite a pivot to me.
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Oh yeahhhhh I think men presenting as straight using it towards a/several women is baaad
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I think that’s why this is so weird to me. To me, it’s pretty clearly not OK in the contexts I’m seeing it? But it’s being thrown around like it’s totally normalized now. I’m not sure if I’m being overly sensitive or what. Hence my ask- I feel like I missed some sort of pivot.
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