I picked B up from school today and her pullup was dry! Yay! She apparently just held it all morning and then did a big pee when she got home. She still won’t pee at school.
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Nap question. Say Ravioli sleeps for 45 min. So one sleep cycle. Should I be attempting to let him hang out in the crib longer after that to see if he’ll put himself back to sleep? Or should I call it good and move on
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He’s 4 months? I think the 4-5 month range is when they start consolidating naps a little more. Particularly if he’s content I wouldn’t rush in. Around that age or maybe a little later we did taking cara baby’s thing of lightly disturbing them before the end of the sleep cycle to reset the cycle and get longer naps and it worked for us several times, could be worth a try?
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I would give it a while if he’s not, like, howling. The cuckoo at that age did sometimes put herself back to sleep. Fingers crossed this is just the start of a glorious new era for napping for you…
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Yeah I don’t wanna reward crying/howling but I also know he could sleep longer… balancing act I guess
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You cant, thats not how babies work 
At some naps you’ll definitely have the quiet wake up, we practiced delaying checking on the kid and it wasn’t every time and took a little while to take, but after a few weeks led to a second sleep cycle.
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That’s a relief!
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Took the words right out of my mouth! They howl when they are genuinely sad. I am of the school of thought that sometimes (when you know they have full tummies and clean diapers and are sleepy) they just need a few minutes to work their shit out via howling and it’s OK to let them do that for a limited time on their way to sleep- not everyone agrees with this approach- but sometimes it means that naptime is Over For Now.
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I was amused one time when I used a timer on the howling and it was less than two minutes for the baby to work himself out and put himself back to sleep. It always feels like forever and I would have totally rushed in there at, like, 17 seconds otherwise.
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Agree, actually timing it is a huge boon.
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Timing it is GREAT. And yes, they do sometimes be genuinely sad and just need to sort themselves out ala my Pumpkin every time she half wakes/ half falls asleep for the past month. BIG sads. I am there but not THERE because that makes it worse. When she was tiny, we gave her a moment but didnt give her 15+ minutes because that is too long for the size of her SADS (but definitely gave that long for the “UGH im tired but I dont wanna sleep but i need to sleep but im not actually scared or big upset right now”, idk but when they differentiate their cries you will know and be like “OH”)
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I will say that when the wiggler was very small that was something I often wondered—am I just giving in to his noises? What if he’s doing it more because I’m rewarding it? Like how the cat jumps on the table because he gets attention even though he knows he’s not allowed?
And then when the wiggler got a little bigger, I think 2 or so, he would actually make noises for reasons other than being genuinely distressed, and at that point the difference was quite clear. Babies are incapable of deception, and so far even preschoolers seem to be very bad at it.
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Yeah, my 3 year olds manipulations are… abundantly clear. 
to the point of hilarity, when I’m in the right frame of mind.
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Someone in my neighborhood is looking for another child to join their nanny share. What types of questions would you ask about it, beyond benefits and wages for nanny?
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What happens if one kid is sick, if nanny is sick, etc
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Where is it at, one house or rotating houses?
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Does the other kid do any extracurricular activities that the nanny takes them to? If so, what are they and what do they cost? Is the nanny transporting them anywhere, by car? Metro? Walking down the street to a park? (Fwiw my nanny drove my kid and I felt comfortable with that but it’s good to know up front and be able to assess how you feel).
What’s the process for the nanny to purchase things and be reimbursed? How would those costs be split? (For exampl e, nanny thinks both kids would love to start finger painting but needs supplies).
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One thing I struggle with is transitioning from one thing that works/worked to a new thing that’s maybe more developmentally appropriate. So we’ve got Ravioli sleeping in the crib now for nights and naps. We have been following the eat play sleep pattern, to avoid feeding before sleep and thus having him expect to be fed to sleep. But I just read this! And now I think, dang, this could be what’s causing his naps to cap off around 45 min, because by then it’s been about 2.5 hours since he ate. So…how do I make the switch. Maybe I’m overthinking it.
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Maybe it’s as easy as feeding him 30 min before first nap even though it won’t be a “full” feeding, and then we’ll be on that schedule moving forward on that day?
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idk - I always did full feeds right before sleep to try and maximize sleep time. Our routine was sleep, play, eat, sleep.
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