I kind of get it. I have the occasional impulse to go back to school (but not for engineering/cs/software). But I almost died in Grad school of psych issues and so I’m like nah…
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I want my PhD just so people have to call me Dr Smacky.
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I sometimes have the urge to do my master’s in accounting with WGU then I think about how much I hated taking tests or writing papers then it goes the fuck away.
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If it helps, it is awkward af when someone addresses you as Dr and you are not, you know, a medical doctor.
PhDs are only worth it if you desperately want to do research – and just research – for 5-7 years. If you want to accomplish anything else, don’t do it.
I am actually here to bitch about bras. And boobs. And bras. But also boobs. I’m just so done with it all.
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Research is my passion. But I also need it if I’m going to lead a research organization as chief data scientist. Unless I can force the issue through sheer charisma and strength of will. Which might be possible.
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We have borrowed “Feet Are Not for Kicking” and “Teeth Are Not for Biting” from the library, but there doesn’t seem to be a book called “Heads Are Not for Headbutting.”
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People are doing web interviews in the conference room catty corner to me and it is SO LOUD. I can hear it through my closed door.
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I’ve never been on the receiving end of this, but I’ve always made a point to address academic/scientific PhDs with Dr. because I feel they earned the title. Am I making things awkward??
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As long as you won’t ask them to look at your rash, IMO.
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I remember a time probably 20 years ago when my boss called someone by his first name. His response was “you can call me doctor”. He is a chiropractor so did he earn it? Sure. But what a seriously dickish thing to say. It happened in our retail store, not his medical office.
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I had a long and frustrating morning of appointments and left the clinic starving. Now I’m paying way too much for overcooked broccoli. It gives me the sads.
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There are absolutely people who appreciate it and like it, because they DID put in that effort and the title means something to them. I like it in terms of appreciation for my skills/effort, but for me that’s overridden by discomfort with the implied hierarchy and formality of the title + last name combo. So definite ymmv.
Thinking about it, I actually think my discomfort is more about settings that are formal/hierarchical enough to require use of last names. If a setting is legitimately that formal (which happens roughly never for me), I’d prefer Dr Last Name to Ms Last Name, because if someone knows I have a PhD and addressed me as Ms Last Name, it would feel really shitty, like they were devaluing me. But if it’s not a super formal setting, I like being addressed by first name, and not last name and title. For me, academia is not a formal setting, so I always preferred students address me by first name.
That latter situation is really varied by institution and person, though, so I think it’s basically worth doing whatever your professors request (and if they have no requests, then whatever most folks seem to do around you). If you have been in situations where full title is expected, then do that.
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I mailed my payoff check 5 days ago and it hasn’t come out of my account yet.
I don’t trust the mail, especially without tracking.
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Sorry for your suffering, but I am amused by “catty corner.” I don’t think I’ve heard that before but now I’m laughing picturing a catty corner at work. I would love to put all catty coworkers in a corner! Of course around here, that would be interpreted as bring your cats to work and let them play together in their corner. @daffodil2001would probably bring in her cat tree so they could have some fun in their corner.
I came here to complain about salad for lunch. Again. I only have myself to blame but ugh, salad. More salad. Aways with the salad these days. It better help!
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FOR SURE. If someone referred to me as Ms. SpaceFarmer that would make me incredibly uncomfortable and depending on the setting I would either roll with it (because I don’t want them to be “familiar” with me, if they’re the enforcing formality party) or insist they call me Illathrael (especially if they’re a client/colleague/acquaintance).
I thought I might feel different when I become Dr. SpaceFarmer, but maybe that will be because I’ll be in a heavy career setting. And I might feel the same way about it as I do Ms.
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Let me know if it seems like the cats understand the teeth are not for biting book. I’d spend money on that
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Getting auras today. I really don’t want a migraine but this shit isn’t great, either.
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Auras blow. Hope you have meds you can take that they will respond to.
I don’t, it’s such a rare occurrence that I haven’t bothered talking to a doc about it. I’ll make note of it for my next appointment!
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My body, baby and cat are only authorizing naps when I don’t have time to sleep
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