Late for me too! Like 8-9pm is the earliest I can catch it. It’s annoying, but at least I know when to look now. Most things suggest second morning urine, which is way off for me.
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I don’t know if usually is the term, but possible and common. When I was tracking I would ovulate 1-2 days after the first positive and sometimes the test would still be positive and sometimes not.
It would also sometimes be positive and negative and then positive again if I tested throughout the day, so I tried to find the optimal time for my pattern and just do once a day.
You might just do once a day for a while and see if you get a positive or period. If period you know you missed it and you’re on the right track. If positive, you didn’t miss it and you’re on the right track. If neither, more data to discuss with your doctor.
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I can’t find the paper now, but I read a study on LH that showed a large variation between LH surge and ovulation, with some women ovulating 1-2 days before the surge, especially older women. After reading that I ditched the LH strips and just stuck to temp tracking to make sure I had ovulated.
This was the closest I could find to the article - it cites a 2018 paper but it’s behind a paywall and not the one I read:
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I do think LH can be useful for guessing on sex timing, but yeah verifying with temping is really the ideal. Especially since some people can have surges that don’t successfully result in ovulation (particularly seen in PCOS). One option in this is the “SMEP” - sperm meets egg plan. I think it’s sex every other day, from cycle day 8 until LH surge, then two days in a row, a day off, and every other day until temping confirms ovulation. But yeah, just LH on its own isn’t really ideal for getting timing right. But unlike temping it tells you time is coming, rather than the window has passed.
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Are painful back zits a hormonal thing? Do not want. 
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Ughhhh. This pms has been all wrong, and peeing negatives and not feeling pregnant or pms.
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So I literally peed a positive WHILE my flow was starting and I had sudden very period feels (not MC feels) and my hormone headache is a mess.
Regularly sleeping with a dude and not trying or preventing is a hormonal mess
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Ugggggh. Sounds like a chemical? The uncertainty sucks. I’m sorry.
I couldn’t handle NTNP. It’s such a mindfuck that when I run out of embryos to transfer, I might buy a TempDrop just so I know when my period is due and don’t let myself get worked up… and we’re an infertile couple! I’m 40 and we have like 8 sperm to work with, but I know I will be tempted to think that this will the miracle month.
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I’ve never done it before, and I think we’re switching into trying. It just didn’t seem worth buying an iud for a few months. And I object to basically all other bc.
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Yes. I get them in pregnancy. Also do not want.
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FINALLY (finally, finally, finally), I got my period for the first time since my MC/D&C.
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It was pretty hilarious, actually, because I’d made an appointment to see my new OBGYN for the first time to check the situation out because we were going on the third month with nothing and I’d felt SURE that I’d ovulated just over two weeks ago but . . . still nothing and testing negative. Wasn’t feeling crampy or emotional or period-y AT ALL this week. But then the ultrasound tech poked around with the wand and said my lining looked good and thick and like I was probably going to get it soon, and when she pulled out the wand, there it was! I started cramping right after that and have been cramping for the rest of the day. I swear she jolted something loose in there, haha.
I really, really like my new doctor (any doctor wearing a pink, tie-dyed headband is all right by me as a matter of course), and the view from their 9th-floor offices is amazing, and everyone wore masks, and the machinery seemed newer, and people were using computers and stuff.
The new doc cleared us to start trying whenever and said if it doesn’t work within four cycles, to get back in touch and we’ll look into my options.
ETA: the ultrasound tech also pointed out to me 4 developing follicles, 2 on each ovary, which she said is a good sign! Maybe I’ll get lucky and win on my first cycle back . . .
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I remember your crap doctor from before and so glad you have one you like now!
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That all sounds so promising, I’m so glad! Fingers crossed for you. 
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Ughhhh. A ton ton TON of my due date group from my first is pregnant again. Even though we’ve only tried again one cycle, it’s still making me terrified to fall right into the “I’m being lapped by the world” hole. 
not fun.
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Oh noooo
My bestie is getting the anatomy scan today and I’m just like 
but also 
and fuck everything.
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This isn’t a fun hole. I’m sorry you’re staring at the edge of it.
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I lapped people… it was not a happy time in my life. But you couldn’t tell that from the outside and I was cognizant that it was painful for people. I’m sorry you’re in that spot.
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Oh, that’s SO hard. Any of those milestones, it can be so painful. Especially when you want to be happy for someone!
Or also if it’s someone you don’t especially like… or used to be married to… Yeah, pretty much everyone unless it’s a like a distant cousin you can hide on FB.
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Right 
I’m a little on facebook exclusively for stuff like buy nothing, FB marketplace, a couple hobby groups. Someone I didn’t know was like “oops sorry I’m 38 weeks pregnant and brain dead” and I was like Haha no worries (actually seething with jealousy)
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IDK if it makes you feel any better, but I had a moment of similar feels when you got to start trying for your second and I hadn’t even started bleeding again yet to try again for my first. If it were a race, you’re still at least in the middle of the pack! But the thing I am finding helpful in such situations is to remind myself that it’s a race against time and one’s own biology rather than a game of chutes and ladders played against other people. That way I can still feel my feels about the “ugh” of my situation but without it being tethered to where other people are in their process. It’s a practice and not an automatic reaction, but it makes it easier to feel good things for other people, anyway, when I do WANT good things for other people. YMMV, but it helps me.
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