Totes fine IMO. Team drink till it’s pink. I mean, yeah, maybe stop at 1.
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Okay. I mean, I’ve seen like “drinking can reduce your fertility” and all that, and I’ve been generally not drinking but I have been having SUCH a shitty month and I have maybe 50% of a “fuck it, likely nothing’s happening this month anyway because of weird temps/bad-ambiguous timing” attitude.
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It is not particularly well established that alcohol reduces fertility, at least in small amounts. The only time I really give up drinking is after a transfer.
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Getting very drunk may impact things like fertility/implantation etc from what I’ve read but that’s the main concern. Sipping on a drink or two o er the course of the night with friends should not make or break this cycle. And if it’s already implanted you will not be causing any sort of fetal alcohol syndrome because the blood supply from your placenta doesn’t hook up until later in the first trimester.
Have a drink with no guilt!
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Did I know that cheesecake was probably too rich for me? Yes.
Did I eat it anyway? Yes.
Did I feel nauseated? Yes.
Did I take a pregnancy test even though I’m max 6 DPO and know it wasn’t gonna be positive? Yes.
Did I think I wouldn’t be this kind of person? Yes.
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Oh fuuuck I may have accidentally talked too obliquely about people who discourage data gathering near bestie and now I’m anxious about it.
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I want you to feel like you have have honest and clear communication with your bestie, instead of feeling shitty and unheard. ((Hugs))
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Lol jokes on me she didn’t even notice. Probably a part of me wanted to hear she pissed me off and apologize
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Yes, I think you passively aggressively dropping hints isn’t helping you. You’re allowed to tell her you’re upset, that what she said was untrue, unhelpful, and hurt.
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I agree with LadyDuck. IMO learning how to have honest direct conversations about things that are hard emotionally (or anything at all really) is so important to maintaining healthy relationships. If it’s not something you’ve practiced until now, sure it won’t be easy the first few times, but it will be so worthwhile.
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Thank you guys. I’ll talk to her because clearly it’s bothering me.
In other news I woke up this morning expecting a high temp, got a low one. Had a moment of disappointment that I was probably out and hadn’t ovulated.
Then I remembered: implantation dip is a thing.
I am too neurotic for this game someone should play for me.
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I’m 4DPO, most likely. I have zero hope and am paying zero attention 
does that help?
I call this chart: eh, fuck it.
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Talked to bestie and it was good.
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@Greyweld - FWIW implantation before day 7 is SUPER rare. That factoid helped me be a little more sane.
@Bracken_Joy, I feel you on the “how much effort is the right amount of effort when this probably isn’t going to work anyway?” (I did temperature but no peeing on things. I don’t have your history of getting lucky so I mostly just wanted to know when my period was due so I don’t make myself crazy.)
According to my calendar last night I put on 2 estrogen patches instead of 1 and woke up this morning with ALL THE ESTROGEN coursing through my bloodstream. I kind of enjoy the estrogen phase. Not sure what it will be like later this week when I am supposed to put on FOUR at once. That seems like a lot.
The Mylanta does seem like maybe it helped with the rash a bit!
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It is currently 7 dpo. Maybe. Or 5. No one knows anymore.
I’m hoping I implant on the earlier end when it happens because my LP tends to be kinda shortish, so earlier implantation = more time to halt the period train.
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Ooooh are you getting that nice “bad bitch” feeling? I never got that during my transfer cycle, I’m jealous haha.
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LOL, more like ovulation where I have EWCM and my husband is handsomer than usual. And better mood and energy!
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I wasnt TTC but I LOVED being on supplemental estrogen for all those reasons!
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It’s really the good stuff!
Unfortunately, I spoke too soon about the Mylanta. I have another nice red oblong. Maybe before I contact the nurse again, I will see if it helps if when I take these ones off, I use cooking oil to make sure I get all the adhesive off.
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18 months in. I don’t even know how many cycles bc not sure how to count the pregnancy / post-pregnancy-no-bleeding months. Three losses. Gave myself a deadline of the end of the year before looking into IVF. And here I am, CD2 on what will probably be the second-to-last cycle of the year, and I’m feeling ambivalent suddenly. IDK if it’s just being SO FREAKING SICK of trying or what.
I find myself thinking, like, well I have big shit planned in August and September of next year. It would actually be most convenient if I didn’t even get pregnant till, say, February, so I could travel for those. But, of course, I want a baby more than I want to do either of those things. And I know that at my age, 40, every month counts. I just. I am so tired of living these fucked up dual existences. I just want to KNOW, like, will I be a mom and need to plan mom-life, or will I not be a mom and need to plan childless life?
The planner part of me (ahem, probably the largest part) is really starting to suffer from this and it’s making me I think almost want to self-sabotage just for a future that I can KNOW. Because I could control it NOT happening. I just can’t control it happening.
This angsty post brought to you by period hormones, most likely.
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