I don’t have any answers for you, only commiseration. I always feel like this when I go back to work after a break of any kind. One day, a weekend, maternity leave…all the same 
And I don’t currently hate my job. I just wish I didn’t have to…do any job.
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I’m sorry your job is making you feel this way.
I was thinking about work a bit last night and not looking forward to it, but just in the general way I don’t like having to do adulting stuff. I did take Friday off and I got lots of stuff done and it definitely revived the day dream of “maybe I quit my job and just do stuff around the house forever instead”.
I dislike the drudgery part of work (like the emails coming in this morning when I’m trying to get on top of what came in last week) but I like the mental challenge of my work and I like my coworkers. If I won the lottery I’d be out of here but the idea staying here for years in the future just makes me sigh heavily, it doesn’t give me existential dread.
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I’ve been at my job for 10 years, and even though I don’t dislike it, I’m never EXCITED to go to work. I’d always always always prefer to stay home and do my own shit forever. That’s how I found MMM in the first place, because I wanted to save my money and not have to work for the rest of my life. I am facing a schedule change that I don’t want, and the thought of looking for a new job for any reason scares the crap out of me.
My husband would still do computer programming things in his free time even if it wasn’t his job. He thinks it’s super fun, and I just don’t get it. I’m glad some people do feel that way about their work, though!
I’m sorry that you are so unhappy at your work. I hope one of your applications for something you’re more interested pans out, and you can move around <3
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I know the thread has moved on but I’m upset that no one mentioned iced coffee.
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I forgot! I do usually put 1-2 ice cubes in my fresh pour over because I’m a terrible person who likes coffee room temperature 
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Horrific oversight.
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That really stinks. I feel extremely lucky that I was able to fall into a job that I absolutely love. I am also usually so worn out from my children all weekend that I look forward to Monday morning when I get to start working. I definitely go through periods where I feel guilty about working and wish that I could quit and stay home with my children instead, but I never actually dread the work itself. My work is very stimulating and even though I have been working in this department for 11 years and this position for 5, I still love every minute of every day. It never gets boring or repetitive and every day there is a new puzzle to solve or a new situation to work through. I hope you can find a job that you enjoy until you don’t have to work anymore!
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I find for me that the more good stuff I have going on in my outside/personal life, the more I dread work. And especially after I take a few days off and I’m like, wow I got all this stuff done around the house and got to be outside more and life is GOOD. Right now I’m in school and so when I’m off work I don’t even think about it for a second, so when I realize it’s a work day I’m like…damn this sucks so much.
There have been times though that work has been something I really looked forward too, during times in my life that were tougher socially or mentally…it’s nice to have the distraction and also to feel like you are accomplishing something/bringing in money.
I’ve never loved a job though. Ever. My boss said it a lot in the beginning “I want you to love your job” and like…I have the best job I’ve ever had right now, but I don’t love it…it’s a job! A means to an end…it’s extremely tolerable for the benefits it provides to me, but I’d never choose to do it if I didn’t have to. If I didn’t need the money I’d be doing so many other things, including unpaid work in areas I care much more about.
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I don’t think I have ever truly looked forward to work. I’m glad for you! Sometimes I look at all the stuff you do and my mind is blown. I think being well suited to your job and liking your job is a really big thing. At least amongst people I know in real life, it’s very rare!!! You are hashtag goals in the work regard!
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That’s because it is an abomination.
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I thought we were friends.
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Inspired, now drinking iced coffee.
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This is interesting and a possible thing for me too!
This, in combination with being raised in a household where work was absolutely killing everyone (hard manual labor) and everyone hated work more than anything, might be the recipe I’m dealing with.
I thank you for sharing your perspective!
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I feel like I could have written this. I still don’t know if the problem is me, the specific jobs I’ve gotten into, or the me-job mismatch. Most days I have to work I feel dread and a not insignificant amount of self-loathing.
I kind of just keep hoping I’ll magically change to have a better attitude? Or get up the courage to try another field that seems like it may fit where I’m currently trying to square peg in a round hole?
I’ve tried the self employment thing and I am not excited enough about marketing myself or self-motivation to really make a good go of it.
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Thanks for sharing. I agree, it’s like attempting to magically conjure an interest in my work every day, and feeling like I’m low-grade torturing myself.
I am self employed part time and it was my full time business for a period. But I could never earn enough to save anything substantial or make a decent living without grinding myself into dust by working so many hours. It reached a point where I either had to hire some people (I loathe managing ppl) or increase my customer prices so much it felt… unethical to me.
And I’m not sure I could have increased prices enough to reach a living salary.
Bah
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Yeah being self employed I could “easily” make $500 a month, $1000 a month was doable, anything more felt impossible with my energy/desire/marketability/wanting not to be only available to rich people.
Plus I just like doing most things I would do as a self-employed person more as a hobby or gift or favor to people than as a job.
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I’ve never really felt that sense of dread going to work. Sunday evenings usually snuck up on me, it was more a challenge to get everything done in time.
Wanting to be somewhere else? Yes
Resenting how much time work took? Yes.
Dreading it? not so much.
It was often easy for me to get into the groove of a task and time would pass quickly, sometimes too quickly.
But I’ve never done manual labor or a job that I literally thought was killing me.
With this last job, it was easy to slip into worry about, What if I get a question I can’t answer? It did happen. I chose to approach my shifts with an attitude of, “I wonder what I’ll get to learn today?”
If you are trying to conjure interest - and it’s not due to boredom from not enough to do - it sounds like it is not a good fit for you. Happy to help brainstorm things that might be a better fit, if you want to talk about skills and what sort of things you like to do.
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I had a job in an office, briefly, when I was in high school (my mom arranged this with someone she knew?) and it was so boring that I though I would die. I hated it so much!
Otherwise, I have liked my jobs since, with the proviso that I did them because they were fun and useful even though they didn’t pay much.
I am very much a homebody and 2020 confirmed that. I am pretty happy at home, just puttering around. I always said that the major benefit of my job was that I had to put on some pants and leave the house every day, especially in the winter.
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@Cranky I feel you, I looove to putter around the yard and house (more the yard, but I’m a bit feral and hate being indoors for too long).
@JRA64 I guess I’m both understimulated and unenthused… generally, by all office type work. Physical labor, which my parents did, is just monotonous and ruins one’s body.
@Smacky et al I use ice in fruit based drinks, tea, or when making an iced coffee. I do not use ice in water.
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For you gardening folks - what resources do you have for just starting out?
Some questions I have -
- what would be the best part of my yard to build the planter boxes? Mostly sunny, mostly shaded, morning sun, or afternoon sun
- what should I grow?
- is it too late in the season to start anything now?
- Should I get potting soil or the compost dividend (I can get 15 gallons of free compost through our service) or both?
- If I want to start my own compost what is the best way to do this? Same question on placement in yard. Further questions like what can I put in it (compost service takes anything organic including dairy, meat, and bones). How much yard clippings and leaves can we add?
- What type of pollinators should I plant?
I have the skills to build boxes and learn things but I feel like I have too many questions to get started and it is holding me back. Especially the question on what part of my yard to start with. We eat lots of squash, tomatoes, potatoes, onions, peppers, carrots, and herbs but are open to eating almost any veggies.
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