I would try glue first, but check out thistothat.com to see if there is a particular type of glue that would work best or not recommended for this.
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Thanks @Smacky @Marcela - question:
It says I should use a glue that’s as transparent as possible- IDK how transparent super glue is when it dries.
ETA: I just saw it recommends a glue! I’m stupid. And very high.
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I think the super glue that comes in tiny bottles dries clear!
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How do I decide what time to do therapy? Like obviously I don’t want to do it during reoccurring work meetings, but is first thing in the morning bad because I’ll have to go to work after? Last thing in the afternoon bad because I’ll be too tired to engage? Lunch bad because I’ll have to take the call from my car???
How do people (especially who work in person) prefer to schedule this?
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For the first few sessions, which tend to be the most emotional for me because I’m essentially downloading my entire past from scratch, I like to have an hour buffer afterwards so my eyes can de-puff and I can compartmentalize a bit. Don’t make plans that evening. But it’s a wildly different part of my brain than my job, and my job isn’t physical in any way, so I don’t ever feel too tired to engage.
After the first few sessions I’m past the immediate emotional burst and more readily able to move about my day without dwelling, it’s more of a background thought work, so any time is fine.
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I always liked to have therapy near the end of my workday or after. If I had to come back to work after a session, it was good for me to plan some less brain intense work for that time so I could process and decompress.
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I like to have sessions after work, with the caveat that they can’t be right after work or else I end up rushed to get there, and spend the first 20 min unloading from my work day vs. tackling actually therapy relevant issues. Sometimes it’s not possible but if I can it’s nice to have even 30 min in between to decompress and get focused on what I want to bring up in therapy.
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I currently am doing teletherapy in the mornings before work. I head into the office at my normal 730, get settled in, do therapy and then am done by the time anyone else rolls in. Caveat, I’m doing cognitive behavioral therapy for some OCD/self harm stuff and it is really unemotional for me. If I was doing anything emotional I think I’d need after work.
My coworker does hers at lunch and then always schedules a 2 hour fake meeting for immediately after her session to give herself time to decompress and actually eat lunch.
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This is a random budgeting question, and it’s honestly kind of unnecessary overthinking, but I’m curious about how people handle this!
So I have sinking funds for various big expenses coming up. For instance next month I will pay $1600 in tuition, and I have that set aside. When you have a big expense like this, but you’ve got the money set aside, do you include it in your spending in that months budget…or do you leave it out, since you used saved money for it vs. that months income. My brain hates seeing that I spent more than my monthly income in any one month, even though the spending came from a savings bucket. It’s a totally petty thing and doesn’t really matter, but I’m curious to know what others do!
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I count it as spending unless I am getting reimbursed! My tuition is reimbursed by work, but I have to pay at the beginning of the semester and work pays me back at the end. So I don’t count the income or the expense here.
For lumpy things like what you’re describing I count it in my monthly expenses. My monthly expenses are broken into “necessities” and “extras”. The necessities are what I like to see stay consistent. The extras will have big swings for things like a big trip, charity donation (I donate in October every year), legal expenses, etc. something like our fridge breaking went into necessities and that wasn’t great for the one month but I couldn’t rationally consider that repair as “extra” when we need a fridge.
ETA- then I look back and do a quarterly/annual income-expenses to make sure it balances out. I know that some months I dip into savings for these things but as long as the year ends up positive I’m good.
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I do it this way too. I count it in that month but I always keep a monthly average for each category too, so big lumpy things like that even out. Of course something like a big home repair is always going to look bad in one month, but it is money I spent so I don’t think I should exclude it from my spending tracking
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I kind of do both. My main focus is on how much we spent without big lumpy renovation expenses so I can get an idea of our average yearly expenses. Then over time I can see that every four or five years we take on a big project that’s larger than X amount, so I can know if that’s something we want to consider in future planning (like I don’t think we’ll redo our kitchen again as long as we live in this house, but are there any other major projects left to be done in this house). It also gives me some leeway in having a buffer range on our average spending.
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I do include it in my monthly spending but at year end I highlight the places where there was a big one off and see/note how it averages in and how it made that month excessively high.
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What we do as follows:
- Start the month with let’s say $100 in the spending category
- Subtract the amount not actually spent (the amount to be put in sinking fund)
- Add the same amount to the “Reserve fund” spending category (but keeping track of which sinking fund it belongs to)
- When the actual payment is to be made (say for tuition, in your example), we subtract the amount from the “Reserve fund” category and add it to the proper spending category (Education in this example)
- Track the expense as we would any normal expense in the proper spending category.
It probably sounds more complicated that it really is. Or maybe it’s just more complicated than I believe it to be. lol
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I count it in the month it happened, but while I track expenses by date, I really only care about the yearly total. I don’t have specific sinking funds either.
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I have two spreadsheets going atm, and I deal with it differently in each one. One spreadsheet has our regular spending month by month, and I don’t track the things that hit sinking funds on the primary tab, but instead have a secondary tab that records those outflows (mostly travel or stuff to do for the house). That spreadsheet focuses on average past 6 month and past 12 month spend.
The other spreadsheet has all outflows month by month, but visually distinct sections for the regular day-to-day spend (with a sub total of that cost of living) and the lumpy stuff (like annual home insurance, travel, etc that we have sinking funds for). This spreadsheet focuses on year to date spending vs. our annual budget and the percentages we’re at. Were I to start all over again, I’d probably make this the only approach.
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Is there any way to get started with therapy these days? I think I’ve read here that people are finding it almost impossible to find a therapist? My niece is having a tough time even getting a call back. One person told her she had to have a referral from a certain hospital group so she did that a few days ago and still no call from the therapist’s office. My sister is trying to help her but my niece is an adult so there’s not much she can do on her behalf. My sister has been told that practices have lost therapists so there’s just no openings. Is this just the truth right now? She’s in Chicago. If anyone has any tips at all I’d love to hear them.
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I’m making my EAP find me one. Technically I get 6 free sessions but my friend was able to keep her EAP therapist for regular therapy.
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I’m not sure if she has this, will ask. Do they actually find you someone who is taking patients? That would be great.
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I haven’t finished the process but they claim that they’ll do all the logistics stuff about making sure they’re taking new patients, actually take your insurance and have compatible appointment times available
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