I do sometimes. 
I’ve been to family weddings and was a party member of a friend’s wedding. For her, i gave her a painting. Idk. I also just don’t give anyone gifts like, period LOL. People know what to expect if they know me. I also expect zero gifts in return.
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It is an ethics thing?
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We live in very different areas!
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If you go to someone’s house, say, for dinner, do you bring something?
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Eh. I just don’t like gifts. I don’t like the obligation. And i don’t want people to feel the obligation to me. I know it’s not how you’re “supposed” to do these things, but i view weddings as big parties to celebrate people. And i happily celebrate people!
I personally feel that the amount of $ people spend on their wedding is their choice. I don’t feel obligated to offset their party cost.
Perhaps I’m a monster LOL
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When people do that here I am confused AF. They’re always from somewhere else. It’s not a thing we do here really.
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Might bring a 6 pack! Or ask if they want snacks brought. But that feels different imo.
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I am dying to see a map of where this is a thing vs. where this isn’t. I would never notice/care if someone did it to me, but I would actively feel uncomfortable not bringing something to a friend’s house if they were feeding me. If/when we meet I will try to remember 
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Woah really? I always bring something!
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Oh, yeah, I suppose that’s the standard here. Is to text before you leave and ask if there’s anything they want from the store or want you to bring.
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Midwesterners have this a touch. When planning dinners it’s very common to ask “what can I bring” but 
Gifts are v common for weddings in Midwest too. But the monitory rules bother me and so i skip the whole to do. Sometimes I bring a card LOL. Sometimes I don’t.
Eta: honestly if someone was upset I didn’t give them a toaster off their registry to “pay” for my seat at the party they invited me to, it would indicate we’re not seeing things the same way.
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I would smile at you in a gracious and yet very confused manner and never return the favor.
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I never saw it as an obligation, but that’s so interesting! Do you eschew cards too? Thank you cards feel like a somewhat silly obligation to me, but I still do them, haha.
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Hahahaha! Lots of people don’t bring anything. I wouldn’t be offended. I do think it’s a bit uncomfortable when you go to someone else’s house and they don’t offer you anything. I mean I’m used to it so it’s not like I get offended, but I always feel so awkward when I have to be like, “So…can I have some water?” Haha, it makes me feel rude!
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Anthropology ruined me. Marcel Mauss’s “The Gift” will haunt me until forever.
Eta: these are all conventions and there are some choices that might be seen as rude. We still have the right to be rude and or not follow the rules that someone else made that don’t fit our lives or ideals or experiences.
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Absolutely! People definitely have the right to be rude or offensive or any other way they’d like to be! I just find the differences interesting and I don’t think I know anyone IRL who doesn’t do any gifts. I hope I wasn’t…rude, haha, I was genuinely curious because it’s so culturally different to what I’m accustom to!
And I’ve just wikipedia’d The Gift. Interesting rabbit hole for today! 
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This reminds me of my favorite joke, NSFW and to be clear about my culture of origin.
Summary
Why don’t WASPs have more orgies?
Too many thank-you notes to write.
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Haha no you weren’t rude! I was just trying to figure out how to explain my position.
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Oh good I usually ask at the moment I’m invited if there’s something I can make/bring. If they say no, I don’t bring anything except maybe like…a bar of chocolate out of my pantry if I have one? Where I grew up, if someone told you not to bring something and you did anyway it would mean you didn’t trust them to make amazing food haha…maybe that’s just my very particular Sicilian family? They also literally stare at you while you’re eating and ask “how is the food for you” “did you get enough food” “is there anything else you could possibly want” while you are staring out onto a table set with 25 different types of food trying to imagine how you could possibly need anything else in your life.
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