My parents were hard asses and we were shits, so we had periods of having to call them sir and ma’am to show respect/get privileges etc back.
That was a bit uncommon even then, esp in the PNW, and probably less so now. Regional variation for sure though.
Other adults were Mr and Miss.
Eta oh and we’d bust out a sir or maam if we knew we fucked up and were trying to avoid punishment.
I grew up calling my parents’ close friends all Aunt/Uncle too
We do the same thing with our girls.
I grew up in a really strict household, in the deeeeeep south, so most of the time it was Sir or Ma’am if we were being addressed or asked to do something. Obviously if I needed my mom I could just say “Mom” but if my mom asked me to do something, I couldn’t just do it, I had to say “yes ma’am” to indicate obedience/respect and then go do it. As I got older it definitely faded, but “respect your elders” was definitely instilled pretty hard. All of my friends parents or my parents friends were “Mr or Miss” First name, I can’t imagine addressing one of them, even now as just their first name!
I used to teach in the deep south and I had to realize that a student who did not call me ma’am was being deliberately disrespectful. Even though I was not hearing it that way, that was what they meant and I had to respond in kind.
Some kids at that time and place were using Mr or Ms with a first name even to refer to their own step parents.
Me too. My friend’s kids address us the same way.
I made a bunch of oleum saccharine because I was curious and like a project, and now I don’t know what to use it for. I would like to bake something. Has anyone used it for a non-beverage kitchen project?
(Oleum saccharine is a thicker version of simple syrup, basically, strongly flavoured by citrus oil)
I have never done this - but use as a drizzle cake syrup? (eg take a pound cake, poke holes, drizzle in warm syrup) Like a pudding chomeur, but citrusy. Perhaps a chocolate-orange cake if you like that sort of thing with cinnamon?
Non baking - to sweeten iced tea?
It’s very common in the South and some areas of the Midwest and it’s also very common if you grow up in a military family anywhere. When I’m super nervous, like in medical settings or probably if I ever went to court (never been), I instantly revert to “sir” and “ma’am” for everyone from the front desk person to the specialist. I also reverted to that sometimes when waitressing but I kind of beat it out of my lexicon because some women in the Northeast get super offended if you call them ma’am. They think it means they’re old when really any adult woman can be called ma’am. But yeah I’ve mostly gotten it out of my speech to blend in better in the Northeast, only comes out under high stress. For family friends and things it was always Mrs. Lastname and Mr. Lastname, it was super weird when I moved and my new friends’ parents were like, call me Sharon and I’m just like…gulp I don’t think I can do that, ma’am. Haha, it felt so disrespectful! I’ve never seen friends use it with each other except in a joking way like, “well look at you today ma’am!” if your friend is really dressed up nice, kind of like how people in other areas use “bitch” affectionately?
I’m trying to break my long habit of using those for students until I learn their names. It seemed like a super respectful way of hiding not knowing names once upon a time, but it assumes genders in a bad way. (Deep South)
Call them all Padawans.
I saw my piano teacher from growing up a few years back, and he said I should call him Peter now, as it feels very weird for him to be addressed as “Mr. ___”. I still have trouble with it.
What are people watching on Apple TV or Amazon prime? I don’t really do sci fi.
I’m not watching because I don’t have those services, but if I did I would want to check out Ted Lasso and The Marvelous Mrs Maisel!
Ted Lasso for sure.
Good Omens on prime.
Im watching WeCrashed
I liked Mrs Maisel, but haven’t watched Ted Lasso. I will look into the others, thanks! I am watching The Morning Show which so far is just ok.
Do you like campy shows? If so you should check out Psych on Amazon prime.
I will look it up, thanks!