I’m imagining all the horrible pronunciations of homme now…
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I took French in high school and I’m not even sure I know how to pronounce it. Hom? Hum? Home?
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The h is silent, so it’s kinda like ohm (pronounced like oar with an m) but with a subtly shorter/harsher o sound.
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At least that’s the accent I learned it with, I’m sure there’s all sorts of regional variations.
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In my communities, masc/masculine is the norm. I haven’t heard or seen any other acceptable terms, and “male” almost always hits someone the wrong way. I haven’t heard/seen “effeminate” in a long time; I know that it has historically been used to describe boys and men (as they were labeled and/or presenting) as having feminine traits and it was usually used in a negative way.
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Before dismissing bread entirely i’d try looking up a bread recipe for that specific flour.
GF flour mixes can make decent GF bread but the types of starches and whether it has gums added will make a huge difference - so using it in a bread recipe meant for a different flour usually won’t work.
Baked goods that have a more even ratio of flour to sugar and fat aren’t nearly as fussy 
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Trying to use “stickers” as a search term.is impossible lol. Who was looking for non-fandom stickers the other day? My friend makes tons of cute stamps, doodles and stickers. We met through our shared love of house plants through Instagram stories and did an art swap at one point! I have one of her Cool Lemur stickers and I love it.
https://www.etsy.com/shop/SpeedRasure?ref=search_shop_redirect
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I find femme and masc mean something very different than masculine and feminine or effeminate. But maybe because I am thinking of femme and butch? If I was dabbling in internet declarations I’d probably do some solid research on current and historical meanings. I’d hate to offend the aged 35-45yo queers. Anyone know where the kids get the info these days? In my day you travelled to the village or to college and university groups or secret dances, or events with shady fliers. There were also indie weekly newspapers. A single yb show. Passed around books and vhs and sometimes a dvd.
@PAWG I need my fellow old to be 700 years old with me for a minute.
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I’m only 600 years old.
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TikToks. The info magically comes to you. Very odd feeling for someone old like me who is used to seeking information out deliberately.
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Slightly older kids (younger than 600) still get it from magical combinations of clearly not-straight terms in the Google machine.
Because if I still haven’t downloaded TikTok even after my favorite nb larping cosplayer made the jump, then…I’m probably not going to.
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I guess it’s a distinction- are we talking actively seeking specific answers, or what informs our understanding of concepts and social priorities and stuff in a more passive way? (Also what we’re meaning by “kids”. I’m thinking about my friend who is an early teen. Former patient, but otherwise a pretty stereotypical tween/young teen). In thinking about how YoungFriend navigates the world, if she has a specific question, like in this case “what’s the opposite of femme?” She would probably go to YouTube and search there first. My equivalent now would of course be to start at Google’s search. At YoungFriend’s age I guess it would have been ask Jeeves or ask in an AOL chat room? TikTok is much more for her what informs the nuance and focus of stuff. I suppose the generational equivalent for me would have been MTV, nick at night, and J14 magazine? Lol. Anyway, my brain was mulling that over as I got ready this morning. How you seek information can influence what you find, so it’s probably a fairly important generational difference in a lot of ways I would think.
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That’s a really good point. This conversation started with someone seeking a specific answer, which is the scenario I responded to.
As for the influences, I’d say Instagram is my online influence. My not-related nb sib is still on Tumblr. My youngest sister (three of us are millennials, she’s gen Z) is definitely on TikTok.
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Yeah, I had approached it as a response to Elle’s query as a generality, then my brain mulled it over more and realized there were more dimensions that I was considering!
Now the startling realization that I don’t know the equivalence for how my parents get information, at least for the specifics. That’s… odd to me.
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I have a couple of nb/ queer folks in their 20’s in my life. They keep me hip to the lingo.
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My parents got information by asking people.
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I am trying to convince some higher-ups at work that my group should have a weekly online social hour on company time, as a way to keep everyone socializing and feeling together when everyone’s working remotely for months at a time. To me this seems like a no-brainer, but ofc it’s my company and so I’m supposed to do research to see what other companies are doing and show that it’s a good idea. (They are tight-fisted motherfuckers, lemme tell you.)
I’ve found a few links, but is anyone aware of either (a) documented high-profile examples of companies instituting e.g. regular online social hours or (b) research showing that this is a good idea?
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So, my org has weekly Zoom social gatherings towards the end of the day. My division does them once a month. More or less on the clock (we don’t take PTO, but booze is allowed/encouraged). I’m happy to talk with them and drop my pedigree in their laps if it helps.
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:3 Do you think they help your team? (If so, I’ll be like “in addition to these articles, my bro who is a Chief Data Scientist for a healthcare company…”)
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They’re a huge help. We even looked at reducing them to every other week and the team (almost) uniformly revolted. When we weren’t doing them, there was a lot more fighting, finger pointing, and a lot less got done. Now that we see faces every week, some people have an easier time remembering they’re working with people and not just a computer.
I haven’t seen any decent studies done on it. I’ve seen some both for and against, but they seem to just confirm the author’s a priori biases. That doesn’t mean there aren’t any, just what I’ve run across.
They got a little stale after a couple of months, but then the glorious vice president of the party planning and general good times committee would send little questionaires out for people the day before on little “get to know us in quarantine” things. Like “what are you watching” and “what are you actually watching but don’t want people to know about”. That helped liven it back up
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