Do you have a baby wearing “library” group in your area? Those are so nice for trying different brands out.
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Baby proofing! I’m trying to do it little by little before there is a desperate need. What are your tips and tricks? Today I took toxic cleaning supplies to the basement, where they can live til we need them. What are your favorite cabinet door locks that don’t need to be drilled? (We rent.) favorite outlet covers? Solutions for work from home desks with bajillions of cords?
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I may or may not have a mini library already (6 different options). There’s also a great used baby gear store that will let you wear them around the store/block. He just seems to change his mind day-to-day!
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If you need to escalate on the outlet covers, these work pretty well. https://a.co/d/b6PSzY9
WFH desks… can you either shut the door if it’s a separate room, or put interesting and distracting things in front of the cables and blocking them, like a low bookshelf with toys or books?
In general I found that my kid had unique things he’d particularly go for or ignore. I did all the “could injure or poison him” baby proofing, but left the “would make an annoying mess” things like books, pots and pans, or even baking supplies until they became a problem. (Pretty sure this approach would have been too chaotic with my nephew though.)
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I do think we could shut the door but for peace of mind I might also like a failsafe!
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These are awesome, not all straps are the same:
Munchkin® Xtraguard Dual Action Multi Use Latches, 2 Count https://a.co/d/51PvlYJ
All the magnetic locks are pretty much the same from what I’ve seen:
Vmaisi Adhesive Magnetic Cabinet… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B47PDB4?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
These are the ones we bought and they’ve worked great
Anchoring furniture is priority number 1 in so many ways. These style are BAD:
Furniture Straps (10 Pack) Baby Proofing Anti Tip Furniture Anchors Kit, Cabinet Wall Anchors Protect Toddler and Pet from Falling Furniture, Adjustable Child Safety Straps Earthquake Resistant https://a.co/d/aT4pEc8
The best are metal L brackets or the cloth webbing you drill through.
Other things we’ve used and work:
Window Locks,MIYLEE 4 Sets… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09ZXZS7QS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Sliding Glass Door Child Lock -… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TQJVQG6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Safety Innovations Twin Door Baby… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007IUOG5A?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Agree. Chance of sudden, acute injury or death? Preemptively done. Chance of intense annoyance? Waited to see.
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We mostly used a mix of safety first push and magnetic door locks. There are stick on and drill in for both. But also after anchoring furniture and moving bleach into the garage we didn’t lock every cabinet. And sometimes the stick on cabinet locks peel off…we mostly ended up leaving those cabinets unlocked.
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We used these on all of the cabinets, drawers, fridge, etc. We have had to replace a few that have come un-stuck, but they have done an amazing job for a cheap price. They aren’t aesthetically pleasing, but I really don’t care. The girls still can’t open them. When they have to be removed, it isn’t that hard with a little goo gone to make it look like they were never there. https://a.co/d/6E2yUiC
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These look sturdy AF. Thanks!!
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Kiddo (8) has always been kind of nosy. And by always I mean I remember having a hard time breastfeeding him in public ever because if there was anything even slightly interesting going on he’d want to look around and take my boob with him, ow. My current issue is that sometimes Mr. Meer and I will be talking about something completely unrelated to Kiddo and he will come in from another room repeating one word of the conversation he happened to hear, which probably he will then misinterpret to something else entirely and he will be asking questions about the other thing he thought he heard. When we don’t feel like putting in the effort to reexplain a conversation he wasn’t even part of to begin with, he gets all huffy and then tries to come back with some parentifying thing like yesterday immediately after being shut out of a conversation he picked some harmless word out of what I said to him and was basically like “You don’t get to talk to me that way!” 
Then he immediately got in trouble to having an attitude (a frequent issue lately) and then that became a whole Thing …
Basically how do we convey to him “If we wanted you to be part of this conversation, you’d already be part of this conversation” without him immediately reflecting it back in an asshole-y way? Or is that just doomed to happen as kids figure out how to human? And also the whole “Everything you do is my business, not everything I do is your business” which I know is unequal but also, child, you are a CHILD.
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I think that’s just part of kids unfortunately. They learn how to person by nosing in on all person stuff. When they’re toddlers that can be extensive tampon commentary and it all just Carrie’s on from there 
no advice just, I don’t think he’s broken or doomed to be a pushy jerk as an adult or anything like that.
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When our kids did that (ie, what are you taking about?) our answer was, jokingly, “Nunya,” as in None of your business.
Not said maliciously or anything, just matter of factly? ie, grown up conversation that doesn’t involve you.
I’ll also tell them “because I said so” in the same tone, ie, J1 can you go somewhere else please? When the aunties and I are gossiping, and when he says why, because I said so.
My one SisIL used to nanny, and is amazed that when I say ‘because I said so’ that they don’t argue, but I think it’s because of the context? It’s never in an argument, it’s never about them, really, it’s about me and that they aren’t privy to what I’m doing or saying.
For example, if I said get your shoes on and they said why, I wouldn’t say because I sad so - I’d give them the reason, because we are going to the store and you need shoes in the store. My mom used “Because I said so” in the context of the shoes regularly, and I swore I never would say that phrase - but I actually use it regularly, just in a different context.
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That’s when he immediately was like “You don’t get to say that to me” as he was indignantly walking back to his video games and it became a Thing. I think we’ve also said “It’s not about you” and he still just must know what we were talking about. Just channel Elsa and let it go, kid!
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lol. I uh - have been known to sing Elsa to them in that situation?
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Alternatively, just tell him in great detail whatever boring adult thing you were talking about until his eyes glaze over.
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This is funny to me and exactly what I’d do.
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Haha this was always my approach with my patient I had for several years whenever they got curious about what I was checking on my phone. They got a lot of detailed explanations of the exact mechanism of action of various of their meds 
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I think this is when you start singing “I bet you think this song is about you, don’t you!”
But I don’t have much firm advice in this arena because my kids are so much smaller. I can say I was and am nosy with excellent hearing and eventually learned social conventions. Not in a timely manner. But eventually
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