Also, hi. I’m here again, a little tentative at 9 weeks along with (hopefully) #2. It’s too early to let myself get truly excited yet, but I’ve been ultrasounded obsessively (IVF) and so far everything looks good.
The first trimester roller coaster of food, hunger but totally unrecognizable hunger signs, and nausea is in full effect. Most of my pants are no longer comfortable. So far everything has been a little easier to manage, though – maybe because I am somewhat familiar with how my body handles certain things, or I’ve experienced all the rough phases ending at some point.
A mild umbilical hernia during pregnancy might not need any treatment at all. The swelling around your belly button may only be fat that got pushed between the muscles. It should go away once you deliver.
What I have is definitely mild—no pain, just a weird grape-sized bulge I notice more when coughing. Not cute but literally only midwife, DH and I see it
Mark it down—today is the day I became absolutely sick of being pregnant. I am deeply uncomfortable in every position, nauseous after 5pm again, miss being able to bend over and do anything without getting out of breath or sweaty. I wonder if this is nature’s way of emotionally pushing you to give birth??? Ugh
Lies. I slept for crap at the end of pregnancy. Well, the whole pregnancy really (insomnia! Etc). At least once Latte was here I COULD sleep when given the chance!
Aka I’m gonna be the other voice and say don’t stress if you’re sleeping like shit right now haha. But do take naps if you can
Hahahaha okay I was just checking! when I was nearly 40 weeks pregnant I was tempted to remove a (childless…) neighbors kneecaps for that particular piece of “advice” such nonsense. I’m sure there’s like. One human out there who sleeps great pregnant? I sure haven’t met them.
End of pregnancy sleep is quite literally the worst “sleep” I have ever had in my entire life. Those who say you should sleep now clearly have never been 40+ weeks pregnant. Anyone who is given that advice should have legal immunity to punch the person giving the advice in the groin as hard as possible.
You’re all simultaneously making me feel better and worried my sleep will somehow get WORSE lmao. Not sure what I would do without a community like this right now for reassurance that I’m not somehow already messing this motherhood thing up
I actually slept well in pregnancy. I only woke up to use the bathroom once or twice a night and got at least 7 hours every night and got frequeny naps. But the tradeoff was i was severely depressed so that “helped”.
I had an interesting intake appointment at the midwives today and learned some things about Spore’s delivery.
Birth details
My delivery in Oct 2020 was a bit hectic. Between a 24-hour labor, quirks of timing, and an emergency C-section next door, there were 5 different shift changes. Once I was considered fully dilated and started pushing, nothing happened for over 2 hours. The nurses started asking me if I was wearing any jewelry, which made me think they were potentially prepping for a C-section. I remember thinking oh hell no — not for a C-section inherently, but because it felt like I’d already done so much work! Right then, a woman came in. I only caught “OB” on her name badge and didn’t remember her name, but she felt the cervix and checked the fetal heart monitor and said I was clear to continue pushing. Shortly after that I talked on the phone with my doula and we made some changes to how/when I was pushing, and then things happened very quickly. Everyone except one nurse had left the room because things were slow, and then I literally heard the word “code” and someone slamming a button on a wall and a dozen people rushing in (half were dedicated to the preemie station). And then Spore was here!
Anyway, I’ve been grateful to this provider for two years — especially counter to the general data, which says that having an OB in the room increases the likelihood of C-section. Today I asked my midwife if she had anything on record about that, and she pulled up the delivery notes. Turns out my mystery angel was a resident who has moved on to a different part of the hospital network, which explains why she’s not on the practice’s website. It was neat to finally put a name to her!
That’s wonderful! I had over 24 hours of active labor too and quite a few shift changes with my first. I ended up pushing for just over 5 hours! I kept thinking that they were going to give me a c-section and even remember begging for one around the 3 hour mark but the 2 OBs I had during pushing time were both insistent that there was no reason why I should not continue pushing. I’m very grateful for them!
Oh thats interesting! My OB was of the opinion that he didnt want me pushing too long without changing things because it can cause damage, but I have a history of pelvic muscle issues and picked him because fixing the weird cases is his specialty. (Baby came out under an hour).
Yeah, I was surprised but I was also kind of focused on just trying to get the baby out. I was making super tiny incremental progress with each push and the baby wasn’t in distress so she had me just keep going. It turns out the baby came out with her arm up against her face, which is why she was stuck on my pelvic bone. The benefit of very, very slow progress was absolutely no tearing at all and a very fast, easy recovery. The downside was 5 exhausting hours of pushing. I still don’t know how I did it.
I was worried the same thing would happen with L. Then I honest to goodness gave 3 pushes and she was out, in less than 5 minutes.
Dumb question… but in the labours described above… did you have a choice of pushing or not pushing? I think my body does stuff differently, my labour is 24h mild menstrual cramp, 1-2h transition, and then it pushes a baby out and I can’t really stop the pushing even if I try. But I also get pushing during my period, so idk? Maybe I am pushy?
I don’t think I could have not pushed. When I was fully dilated they were refusing to check me because they didn’t believe I could possibly be there yet (I went from like, 6/7-10 in less than an hour). I told them that it was taking every ounce of concentration I had to not push and they finally checked me and it was time. The contraction monitor also wasn’t working, so I would nod my head to tell them a contraction was starting each time and they would start counting the push.
I slept for crap at the end of pregnancy. Well, the whole pregnancy really (insomnia! Etc). At least once Latte was here I COULD sleep when given the chance!
such nonsense. I’m sure there’s like. One human out there who sleeps great pregnant? I sure haven’t met them.
