Also this times a billion, lol. I have to be in a specific mood to listen haha.
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yes exactly! and also the opposite ā there are lots of guys out there who would try to get me to buy their soup and pay their phone bills as well. after exactly two of those, i also started filtering partners by their ability, willingness, and desire to treat me.
clearly this guy has some baggage around being financially taken advantage of and thatās ok! whatās not ok is refusing to see that, or get help to shift it so that he can be a generous partner with someone who is also generous to him. this dude just thinks his way is the correct way. sad!
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I believe the technical term for that is a scrub.
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not even a best friend with a ride to hang out the passenger side of, smh
ugh why are scrubs so cute, tho? 35 and under madge would like to know
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Bahahahaha! 
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If Monique and Pablo is the episode Iām thinking of - I recall that at some point early in their relationship, he quit his job, moved to be near her and didnāt work for two years. He lived off of his savings during that time.
I was floored by that, and found that very co-dependent. How about a long distance relationship? Getting a job in her city?
Did anyone else find that really odd?
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Yeah, I thought that was weird! It was like āI didnāt work so I could be with you!ā Which, in some places of course you need a work Visa which you might not be able to get, but maybe thatās not the best course of action in terms of responsibility, and not something to hold over someoneās head.
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I wasnāt listening very closely at that point, I didnāt know why he was no longer at his prior job and thought he was maybe job hunting while also helping her with homework or whatever. I think that also didnāt come up till later in the second episode and I was like WHAT how was this not brought up sooner??
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I have successfully implemented one of the lessons Iāve learned from listening! I have spent, multiple weeks in a row, money on pure convenience. And here they are, I am obsessed:
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I bought them first because there was a sale and they were cheaper than plain greens but I got these two full price! I have never had one of these before but the Aldi ones use mostly cabbage and shredded carrots and kale so the greens are sturdy and not at all bruised or slimy. Also OMG I love the junky dressing and fun little add ons! Sometimes I dress it up with extras and sometimes not but holy crap Iām sold on these.
I love salads. Like I crave them all the time. I know, I know, itās super weird, lol. Iāve liked them ever since I was a little kid though! So crunchy and fresh and you can put anything in it? Anyway, for husband a salad is never enough for a meal even if I put half a chicken and a bucket of cheese on it, lol. I donāt eat salad nearly as much as I like because of that but I crave it a lot. These are prefect. And theyāre really great for limited mobility/high pain days like today, you can literally just open and dump them in a bowl! Thatās it! I know Iām probably way late on the uptake with this, but Iām really excited and I think husband is approaching his event horizon in terms of listening to me gush about these bag salads 
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ooh i get these at trader joeās sometimes ā the southwestern one with lime dressing and cotija cheese and crunchy lil tortilla bits is my fave.
good job spending money to increase joy without increasing pain/energy demands!
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I love salad kits. I canāt stand to hand-make a salad for some reason, despite being adept at most other forms of cooking. The kits just have so much texture and flavor!!!
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For me itās an issue of having to buy a whole unit of X and Y and Z and Q and W for me to make a salad Iāll like, but then I need to make sure I get through X and Y and Z and Q and W all before something turns, and usually at least one thing doesnāt get used up. Or Iām tired of eating one particular thing thatās difficult to incorporate into other meals for whatever reason.
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True, you can get a lot more types of salad by buying the kits. Otherwise you are doomed to eat the same salad until stuff is gone.
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I just hate all the chopping and washing!
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Wizard and I often get the TJs southwest salad kits. They are amazing on long, stressful days when you need to eat some cabbage slathered in dressing.
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Are there days you donāt need to eat cabbage slathered in dressing?
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Pretty much all days are better with cabbage slathered in dressing.
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Thatās what I thought.
This is way off topic now.
This is delicious. I add carrots and red onions, and use Worchestershire sauce because I prefer it and donāt keep fish sauce. I havenāt made it in ENTIRELY too longā¦
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Yummmm. I miss salad so much. And Iām the only one in my house who likes it. Maybe I should see what kinds of kits our grocery store hasā¦
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I havenāt made this one in a long time, but this is good with either napa or red cabbage ā I used to make it with red cabbage a lot when we were in Beijing:
PS: I totally missed that this was the IWTYTBR comment thread. But I first started following Ramit when I lived in Beijing, so thats the circle of life for ya!
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