Hi everyone. I got top surgery yesterday, and I want to document the experience. I thought OMD might like to come along.
I was a fat kid, which meant I got pre-breasts pretty early. I remember being embarrassed by them, then eventually forgetting to be embarrassed so thoroughly that I forgot I ever was embarrassed for several decades.
I eventually settled out as a pendulous 40EE, though it took me a long time to realize bras went above DD. Going to my first ‘real’ bra fitting with a bustiere at 37 was a goddamn revelation.
I had the occasional thought about getting a breast lift, because my breast developed as pendulous, with a lot of bulk near the downward pointing nipples. I’d never had a young n’ perky stage, and it seemed a little sad. Plus, like most women I have a love/hate relationship with wearing bras. I talked about it with my wife, and she said it was my body but that she liked me just fine, and I didn’t think I could get surgery through insurance. They were never very serious thoughts.
I don’t remember when I first learned about gender affirming top surgery. Probably in college. I don’t remember feeling any tug towards wanting the procedure, beyond thinking it would be nice to eject bras from my life. So I knew surgery was out there.
I watched a YouTube video in 2018-ish of a non-binary person getting top surgery, and I remember being interested that top surgery had expanded outward from the transgender community.
At some point I started thinking about a breast reduction, but my wife still thought I was fine and I still didn’t think insurance would pay for surgery because I have no history of pain or rashes.
I went through a pretty big life change in the format of a very surprising divorce, and I spent a year thinking about what I really, truly want for myself, without any outside influence.
What I decided is that I’m very agnostic towards my own breasts. They go from just being there, to being actively annoying, with the flopping, and the bras.
I made the decision to do something about my tits in Jan 2022, then plunged down the research rabbit hole. Where I found a lot of information that traditional reduction probably couldn’t get me below a B cup. The procedure for reduction just isn’t the same, and there are many stories on the internet about surgerons making decisions about sizing while a patient is unconscious.
I’m not transgender, and I categorize myself as more middle-age and no longer taking any shit, than actually dysphoric. Which was a problem, since most surgical practices and/or surgeons require a letter from a psychologist affirming dysphoria.
Eventually I found a list of surgeons who do surgery based on informed consent, instead of psychological gatekeeping. There are 17 in all of America, which is a whole ‘nother post.
Back on the Path
I booked a consultation with 2 gender affirming surgerons, and one local cosmetic surgeon just to make sure I covered all my bases. I got the best connection and feeling about the surgeon in North Carolina, and I booked surgery in late March, scheduled for Dec 2022.
The big gap between booking, and having the surgery was to avoid being down ‘n out during hurricane season. Which, jokes on me, but we’ll get to that.
Consultation Fee $100